#Metoo
๐๐๐ก๐ก๐ค ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐๐จ
โ ๏ธ please read ~ group warning at the end โ ๏ธ
We would like to address a few things from the Ekali posts yesterday. The posts have all been removed and to be quiet frank, the comment sections were incredibly disappointing.
FRU stands behind those who come out about abuse, the strength it takes to talk about it is incredible and we will not allow disrespect or discouragement towards those who have found that strength.
๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐จ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ฃ๐?
๐๐๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ค๐?
๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ฉ๐ ๐จ๐๐๐๐จ.
๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎโ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ค๐ฃ ๐จ๐ค๐๐๐๐ก ๐ข๐๐๐๐.
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๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐จ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ฃ๐?
~ As stated above, it takes a lot of inner strength to face what has happened to you, to accept what has happened to you, to pursue justice for what happened to you. Our society has downplayed those who come forward about abuse for forever, the comment sections on the posts within FRU were examples of this. Being that victims are often not believed, questioned as though as it is their fault or even flat out blamed, treated as lesser or disgustingโit can make it incredibly discouraging for the victim to come forward. Soooo...
Rather than ask, why wait so long or why nowโsay I am so proud of you for finding the strength to talk about what you have gone through.
๐๐๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ค๐?
~ Abuse is most commonly known and seen as physical abuse BUT not all abuse is physical. At that, not all abuse has visible proof, but rather eyewitness experiences. Ask yourselves, why do we believe the alleged abuser until proven guilty BUT do not believe the victim until the abuser is proven guilty? Rather this, delay your trust/support within the abuser until proven not guilty and support the victim until the abuser is proven not guilty.
On a second note, proof can be very personal and triggeringโboth for current victim as well as any survivors of abuse. If and when they want to share these personal items of proof publicly, they will, but who are we to demand that they be ready nowโafter they just built up the strength to talk about what happened to them, here we are questioning the truth behind their experience and at the same time expecting them to be willing to share even more personal information with us. Why on earth would they after weโve just crushed the strength it took them months/years/decades to build by questioning their truth?
๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ฉ๐ ๐จ๐๐๐๐จ.
~ It is always ideal when educating yourself to hear both/all sides, but again I will ask, why do we believe the alleged abuser until proven guilty but do not believe the victim until the abuser is proven guilty? Why is the person in question more trustworthy than the person coming out about a lived experience?
๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎโ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ค๐ฃ ๐จ๐ค๐๐๐๐ก ๐ข๐๐๐๐.
~ Social media has become a powerful tool used to express yourself and make your voice heard. When it comes to people of power and/or fame, the factor of getting your story out and heard is important. Many look up to those of power and/or fame, many of those people look up to people who share beliefs/morals/life paths. Hearing the story of someone else can stop you from supporting someone who goes against your beliefs/morals/life paths.
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Any members within FRU that are disrespectful or discouraging to victims who have found the strength to share their story will be subject to:
* Comment Removal
* 4+ Days Mute within FRU
* Removal from FRU & all FRU Groups
The FRU community is founded on PLUR and all aspects of PLUR apply here:
Peace ~ allow victims to achieve their peace, allow them to speak up.
Love ~ someone has been through something traumatic, often times done on to them by someone they loved. Share what love you can.
Unity ~ the act of abuse and the downplay of abuse is far to mainstream in society. We need to unify together behind those who have found and keep finding the strength to share their stories.
Respect ~ respect that someone has been through something painful. Respect that they are hurting. RESPECT that they have now found the strength to share their story.
Love, FRU admin team ๐
